Rejection.

I think it’s admirable for someone to take no for an answer with grace and respect.

I encountered a random guy who messaged me on Facebook today. I thought he was a friend of a friend (based on location) and accepted his message request. That was an amateur mistake on my side, apparently. He said he wanted to meet new friends, and I told him it made me a bit uncomfortable that he’s trying to do that this way. Eventually, he asked if it’s because I don’t like making new friends, and I told him it’s not that I don’t like making new friends, but I disliked his method and told him that I hoped that he could make some new friends. Then? I blocked him.

He was a guy who couldn’t take no for an answer.

I think it’s really courageous for someone to be upfront. I gain a lot of respect for people who are willing to risk getting hurt by that special person. I’m not going to lie – I’m so scared of getting hurt. I’m also terrified when it comes to opening up, so I have immense respect for those who are willing to put themselves out there in a vulnerable position. I think it is one of the bravest things that one can do.

However, there are people who cannot and will not take no for an answer. Sometimes people do not feel like they are on the same page with that other person, and it’s important to respect that. There are a lot of people who do not value other people’s opinion though. Just because you think or believe that you’re the ideal guy / girl doesn’t necessarily mean you are. You’re not entitled to be liked / loved by everyone; you just need to find the ones who love and appreciate you the way you are. I think it’s important to realize that early on.

I personally believe that I can tell how someone (more or less) is by how he / she handles rejection. If one can handle rejection with grace – meaning that he / she can accept the other person’s opinion with respect…it means that this person is someone who possess empathy and deserves respect, too. If one cannot handle rejection well…then it’s pretty obvious, isn’t it? Life isn’t all about the highs, it’s also about the lows, too. It’s always easier for me to see how a person really is when they’re at a lower point in his / her life. What is the mentality? What is the outlook? Is he / she trying to improve from the past? These are questions to think about regarding rejection.

I love someone who is able to take rejection with grace and with respect. It doesn’t just display having respect for that other person, it display self respect, dignity, and confidence, too.

It’s okay to be rejected at times, as long as you know the appropriate ways to move forward.

PS: Irrelevant side note – my brother flew back from Germany today, and he said that our family friend asked him to bring four bottles of wine back for me. I’ve been drinking a bottle of red wine consistently. No regrets. I’m hoping this post makes sense to me when I’m sober. If not, I’m sorry (but why? It’s my own damn blog).

3 thoughts on “Rejection.

  1. Hahaha..Miko, you’re so deep when you drink! You should consider writing only when you’re drunk!

    But yes, handling rejection well and taking “no” for an answer is a great skill to have, regardless of the situation, we will all fail in something one day. Notice that I used the term “skill” because I personally think that it can be developed, a sort of thick-skinned approach to being rejected is a skill in upon itself, some people are naturally better than others but it is a good skill to have and develop. It is especially evident in our inter-personal relationships that rejection is the most painful but probably because we are also the most vulnerable.

    We must learn to take the situation at face-value and move on. Hard, I know..but life is hard for everybody.

    1. Hey Winston! I’m terrible at replying to comments, as you can see…

      HAHA – I’m totally taking that as a compliment, but I’ve actually be pretty sober last night when I was writing my newest blog post. I think of it as a writer’s block (even though I’m still so far from being a great writer). I actually started my boundaries post when I was tipsy, but I couldn’t find the words to express my thoughts, so there’s that. I think drunk me is just more blunt and direct though. Drunk me is also oddly responsible and makes life easier for sober me the day after.

      I agree though, I think handling rejection can be practiced. Life doesn’t always go the way you want it to…so “no” is quite ubiquitous. I think the ability to react in a more positive manner after being rejected is also a crucial skill, too, as you can see from my post. There’s a line between not giving up and just not respecting others’ wishes so it’s always important to tread carefully…

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