I think it’s admirable for someone to take no for an answer with grace and respect.
I encountered a random guy who messaged me on Facebook today. I thought he was a friend of a friend (based on location) and accepted his message request. That was an amateur mistake on my side, apparently. He said he wanted to meet new friends, and I told him it made me a bit uncomfortable that he’s trying to do that this way. Eventually, he asked if it’s because I don’t like making new friends, and I told him it’s not that I don’t like making new friends, but I disliked his method and told him that I hoped that he could make some new friends. Then? I blocked him.
He was a guy who couldn’t take no for an answer.
I think it’s really courageous for someone to be upfront. I gain a lot of respect for people who are willing to risk getting hurt by that special person. I’m not going to lie – I’m so scared of getting hurt. I’m also terrified when it comes to opening up, so I have immense respect for those who are willing to put themselves out there in a vulnerable position. I think it is one of the bravest things that one can do.
However, there are people who cannot and will not take no for an answer. Sometimes people do not feel like they are on the same page with that other person, and it’s important to respect that. There are a lot of people who do not value other people’s opinion though. Just because you think or believe that you’re the ideal guy / girl doesn’t necessarily mean you are. You’re not entitled to be liked / loved by everyone; you just need to find the ones who love and appreciate you the way you are. I think it’s important to realize that early on.
I personally believe that I can tell how someone (more or less) is by how he / she handles rejection. If one can handle rejection with grace – meaning that he / she can accept the other person’s opinion with respect…it means that this person is someone who possess empathy and deserves respect, too. If one cannot handle rejection well…then it’s pretty obvious, isn’t it? Life isn’t all about the highs, it’s also about the lows, too. It’s always easier for me to see how a person really is when they’re at a lower point in his / her life. What is the mentality? What is the outlook? Is he / she trying to improve from the past? These are questions to think about regarding rejection.
I love someone who is able to take rejection with grace and with respect. It doesn’t just display having respect for that other person, it display self respect, dignity, and confidence, too.
It’s okay to be rejected at times, as long as you know the appropriate ways to move forward.
PS: Irrelevant side note – my brother flew back from Germany today, and he said that our family friend asked him to bring four bottles of wine back for me. I’ve been drinking a bottle of red wine consistently. No regrets. I’m hoping this post makes sense to me when I’m sober. If not, I’m sorry (but why? It’s my own damn blog).